And yet there were a few people in my social circle who could – to put it charitably – punch well outside of their apparent weight class.
I thought that women felt attracted to men for the same reasons that we feel attracted to women. I didn’t realize that it was possible to make beautiful women feel attracted to me for reasons OTHER than looks, so if they rejected me, I simply assumed, That’s all I knew because I was another brainwashed modern man who believed the junk I saw in TV and magazine advertisements.
Even though I saw below-average looking guys with beautiful women, I didn’t see that as real.
Surprising (to me, anyway) was that the second most-important thing to you was “meeting men in real life”.
Here’s a sampling of some of your questions: Personally, I don’t know the difference between the “real man” of which these women speak and a “fake man”, but I am hearing an outcry for the one place that you can go to meet the man of your dreams.
Since starting this blog in 2007, I’ve answered hundreds of your questions, clarified my thinking about dating and relationships, and – somehow, some way – became a husband and a father. And in case you didn’t know, most of what I do as a dating coach does NOT take place on this blog.
Hard to believe that this was the same blog that was once called “Advice From a Single Dating Expert,” but, well, there you have it. It takes place on my weekly newsletter, which comes out on Tuesdays.The #1 thing you want from me – by far – is how to understand men. After all, if men were easier to figure out, you’d already be in a healthy relationship, and I’d probably be out of a job.I’m kidding, of course, but I’m very sympathetic to your frustrations and have made it my top priority to focus my energies on helping you “get” what makes men tick and how you can make better choices with your partners.The reason for this is probably because there are always women who are willing to make absolute fools of themselves for a wealthy man, and by the time you are dating him, he is already on guard and ready to put you into the "another gold digging hooker" category.You must be extra careful not to give him any ammunition to think that your behavior looks familiar to his past relationships.Just about every man feels like he is something special right off the bat, and men with money really believe that its all about them.