If a potential date’s actions or words set off an internal alarm system, you owe it to yourself to pay attention and act accordingly. For example, if you’ve met someone online and they seem interesting, then you talk to them on the phone and they sound completely different (in a negative way), you may decide not to meet them in person.A positive example would be if you were on a date with someone and they seemed nervous but well intentioned, your gut might tell you to give them a second chance.The most common dating mistakes often spring from underlying issues of self-esteem (think too little of yourself, and you'll settle for less-than-ideal situations - think too much of yourself, and you believe bad behavior is absolved by your sheer fabulousness).
An example of a red flag would be if you found yourself on a date with someone who could not stop talking about their ex.They may be a fantastic person, and eventually make a great partner, but right now they’re not ready.Most men are picky and enjoy the freedom of single life (up until a point, but we'll come to that in a later blog).Women are usually more eager to commit and want to settle into a relationship than a man (pardon the stereotypes here but this is generally the case and backed up by evolutionary science). If he is interested in you enough, he WILL call, he WILL text and he WILL ask you out on a date.To become a truly successful single in the new millennium, you owe it to yourself to become a red flag specialist.
That means paying attention to red flags as they are presented to you on dates.Then there's the lack of faith in the abundance of the universe - the anxious sense of scarcity that propels us to "make things happen," instead of letting them unfold. It's uncanny how the women I coach all tend to commit the same mistakes (five of which I've outlined below).Moreover, correcting the errors of your ways can be done with a bit of practice.By going on a second date, you’ll gain a better understanding of who they really are and if you’d like to see them again.Rule #2: Pay Attention to Red Flags Like those internal alarms that alert you to your gut feelings, you also have an alarm system to alert you to red flags. As a result, we often ignore red flags and find ourselves getting involved with inappropriate partners because we’re not paying attention. In some cultures, parents still closely supervise courtship and arrange children's marriages, but youth worldwide have increasing choices in dating and mate selection.