These days, families have reasserted their control but individuals getting married probably have more say in marriage matters than they ever had before.According to a Chinese legend, couples destined to marry have invisible red strings, connecting them, tied around their ankles when they are young children.
Women in China are going to be barred from interracial marriage, a restriction that doesn't apply to the men to address an imbalanced sex ratio caused by the country's past one-child policy, according to news accounts.
"The Supreme People’s Court of China (on Wednesday) passed legislation that will ban Chinese women from marrying non-Chinese men, with the law coming into effect at the beginning of 2018," says an article in the East Asia Tribune.
The latest data, from a 2010 population census, shows more than 600,000 foreigners dwell in China, and 56% of them are male.
But while dating seems to be on the rise, marriage is still unusual—thanks to political differences that are often irreconcilable, according to the women I spoke to, who were all between 21 and 25, prime age to start looking for a husband in China.
The real “danger” of love between a Chinese woman and a foreign man is that it doesn’t ultimately go anywhere, the women I talked to said.
The opposing political views of May Xu, 24, who works for a Spanish head hunting firm in Shanghai, and her Spanish ex-boyfriend, who she met at work, were reflected in just one sentence.
"The policy had been fiercely debated for a number of months before it finally won approval from the required number of legislators earlier (Wednesday.) Civil rights groups in China have condemned the restriction, pointing out that it discriminates against women by still permitting males to enter into interracial marriages." It is, at its root, a math problem.
Thanks to years of a one-child policy that favored having boys but not girls, the country has a very large imbalance in male-female marrying-age ratios.
“‘The law was introduced in order to promote social harmony,' commented one of the People’s Courts legislators.
'We need to ensure there are enough Chinese women available for marriage; otherwise there is a high probability of increased levels of rape and other violence.’” In April, the Deseret News reported that Chinese couples who obeyed the one-child policy are lashing out now that it has been abandoned and couples are being allowed a second child.
Marriage is their destiny." According to Chinese custom a man should marry a woman who is several years younger than him and should have less education.