If she says no, I cut my losses because chances are she is a time waster who loves attention but isn't serious about online dating.^^^ the Google result will give you only a general area, not exact address with street name and house number.
But I do know what it’s like to be the girl that is asked out by a wide variety of guys, in a wide variety of ways. He wasn’t a classically handsome man, but there was instant chemistry and I thought he was so cute. When I went to leave the store, he stopped me and gave me one of the store business cards. I avoided picking up the phone for any local number I didn’t recognize.–Dex: This guy was my secret admirer. One day I received a note saying I had captured his attention during a conversation we’d recently had. He finally called me at the store a few months later, if I can remember correctly. Finally, one day, he said that if I wanted to see the new movie we’d been discussing (, it turns out), he’d love to tag along. His approach creeped me out and I hated that I felt pressured to give him my digits. I probably would’ve gone out with Dex, but the guy took too long! Everyone would display their best images and portray themselves no less than a superstar but you don’t really know the true face, so hold your horses before giving your number. Deliberately check the Facebook profile or Instagram or any other social media account of the person to verify his identity on Tinder and stalk enough to at least judge that the person is not a sociopath murderer or a psychopath.
Also check his twitter to check what kind of people he follows or what are his interests.
Am I being unfair with this expectation of not giving my phone number out and preferring to spend weeks on online chatter? If you’ve ever wondered why you struggle with men, it’s quite likely because you’ve never given much value to HIS circle in the Venn Diagram.
I actually do like this gentleman, which is unusual for me. I figure this is as good a time as any to float a pretty non-controversial theory of how to be successful in dating. Okay, so you know what a Venn Diagram looks like, right? I always ask for the man’s phone number, and offer to call him.
If you think something is reasonable, but nobody else on the planet agrees with you, you’re going to be more effective by finding a compromise point closer to the majority position. Men who don’t pick up the full check on Date 1 are not “wrong”, but they are ineffective. In the Venn Diagram of Online Dating (copyright, Evan Marc Katz), men’s circle is Speed. He wants to meet you right NOW and see you naked ASAP. You know as well as I do that women don’t want to be bullied into going on blind dates: “Dear Dan, thank you for your initial inquiry. Besides, your profile doesn’t say very much about you, so maybe if you tell me more about yourself, if we click, then, maybe in a few weeks, I’ll give you my phone number and we can go from there.” This is the entire reason that I came up with a strategy that works for both men AND women.
This Venn diagram theory goes for pretty much everything in life. And by ineffective, I mean that by not being able to understand (much less cater to) the opposite sex’s point of view, you’re pretty much eliminating your options.
Is it possible to find a woman who’ll have sex on Date 1? Is it possible to find a man who’ll wait until marriage before having sex? But there are a LOT fewer people who will agree to either.