When your ex is dating someone new

Then again, nonchalance is easy to pull off when you’re never at the receiving end of your own douchy-ness.It turns out I wasn’t competing with his new girlfriend so much as I was comparing.

After almost 3 years; serious and living together, talking about marriage and babies, he ended it by saying he needed to break up and experience what life would be like without me in order to truly appreciate what he had and then he'd try to win me back.My answer to his epiphany: I told him to move out (I owned the home).No, our friendship wasn’t conventional, and no, there was no real protocol for this type of thing, but Then again, there were many things I did over the years I felt weren’t reciprocated, so why would he start respecting my feelings now? “Insulting the new girl makes you feel better about yourself, which helps you feel good and maintains your self-esteem,” she explains. Yet there I was, foaming at the mouth, texting the gutless wonder to see what he’d say.This was right around the time I started feeling like a “Girl, Interrupted” sequel. I privately tore her apart, the entire time not understanding what I was doing or why – it’s not like I wanted him back. I ended up receiving the same old misunderstood victim saga he’d give me every time I had to confront him about something during the course of our relationship.Many people will jump back into the dating scene, which is fine so long they're doing it to live their lives in the moment and move on, but also because they fear being alone.

It's a quick fix if that's the case, one in which we can drown out our pain by reveling in the emotional intensity and passion of a new found love.Simply put, they are trying to maintain the same relationship but with the a different partner.This could only lead to disaster considering how a person is not yet over the old relationship to enter a new one.So he did and I never saw or heard from him until about 5 months later.He emailed a very sterile message telling me not to worry about giving back a few DVD's I still had because he's replaced them.It can be a lot more fun that dealing with the misery of a recently broken heart.