What you are forgetting is that there is a third option: the option taught to us by our beloved Prophet (sws).Let us examine each of the three options for meeting a marriage partner: One option is dating. First, the Prophet (sws) has taught us that it is haram for a non-mahram (unrelated) man and a woman to be alone together. Department of Justice, 68% of young girls raped knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or casual acquaintance, and 60% of rapes of young women occur in their own home or a friend or relative’s home – not in a dark alley.
You explain that dating is needed since arranged marriages are not feasible.
However, by saying this you imply that these are the only two routes to getting married.
I do not remember that he called me more than once.
I asked him not to call me; because I feel this is wrong, although I love him.
Unless touching is needed like in an emergency, do not do it. When a man and women meet, they should be as professional as possible, there is no need to touch, kiss, hold each others hands or look at each other. Also if you are to be in a company of a women not of your family, make sure that She has a Mahram with her, or you bring someone along yourself.
This is the way to try to keep yourself as well as the women safe, keep the respect, as well as stay away from Zina, because Shaytaan does whisper to anyone, no matter how religious that person is.In the society that the Prophet (sal-Allahu alayhi wa-sallam) lived, burying little girls alive was the norm.Of course, the principles of Islam prohibited such barbarism – regardless of what was widespread at the time.(Lawful to you in marriage) are chaste women from the believers and chaste women from those who were given the Scripture (Jews and Christians) before your time, when you have given their due mahr (bridal money given by the husband to the wife at the time of marriage), desiring chastity (i.e., taking them in legal wedlock), not committing illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as girlfriends.And whosoever disbelieves in the Oneness of Allaah and in all the other Articles of Faith, the fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be among the losers.” [al-Maa’idah 5:5] Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “Muhsineen ghayr musaafiheen wa laa muttakhidhi akhdaan (‘desiring chastity (i.e., taking them in legal wedlock), not committing illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as girlfriends’).There are many many rulings on dating and relationships by various people, fatwās, and scholars, such as this. I want to say that I trust only in Allah and his Angels, the Holy Quran, and Prophet Muhammad, but not in any other worldly people when it comes to how to live my life.